I don’t think I am functional enough to care for a cat anymore, and I could never bond with another cat. Words cannot express how special he was and how helpless I felt dealing with his illnesses, the pancreatitis especially. On July 3, he was laying by me and all of a sudden he jumped up and started licking his face and shaking his head. Afterwards, I called my brother Alex Roantes and broke the news to him, as we both cried over panchito’s passing, has Alex has nicknamed him because of his gargantuan size as a result of his love of food combined with Papa’s pushoverness when it comes to him. This cat that I raised from a kitten was gone. But Nelly was not meant to replace him, nor will she ever replace him, But she has brought me so much joy. It does give some comfort that others have survived this situation. She said, “Well, you already have. Whilst this side was a silver lining, having to provide palliative care to your cat at such a young age broke our hearts. I will be honest, it did take a little bit to bond with her. Cats are territorial, and coming into a new home leaves them feeling really uneasy. I’m just so in love with her and I will be forever- but this new kitty that needs love too is a good distraction, and that’s really nice during such an extensely painful time. He had this cat tunnel , and he would stand at one end. Because our pets cannot speak, we … Kellie B. Gormly I guess we should be grateful with all our hearts that we had the love and devotion of a most wonderful soul cat..and realize that we may not have that again no matter how much we may want it. I AM JUST MAD WITH BLIND RAW EMOTION AS I MAKE THIS ENTRY. I take him there and he moans when i carry him. A study performed by the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals discovered that 46 percent of grieving cats ate less than usual after a companion cat died. It kills me every time. We couldn’t do it. I miss him so much. I understand it will be a completely different personality and they also look nothing alike. She didn’t want to come to me, which I found strange. You gave your fur babies the best lives possible and you should take comfort in that. So traumatic that I know that image will be with me for life. I missed a day and a half of work because I couldn’t stand to be around anyone. I had to let him go. I dunno if taking him to the vet sooner would have helped, but I feel like I should have — months ago. And she kept asking me if I wanted her body. Even when our cats are alive, there are bittersweet experiences – like the cat hair and furrballs and litterboxes! It helps that I do pet sitting and have seen how still being around other cats affects me. I guess it’s individual to each person. They would never and could never ‘replace’ our kitty that we lost, and I’m still grieving for him 7 months later) but our kitties are so loved and bought SO much joy. She had actually brought her toy up on my bed the day before & I had made her a paper ball which she loved to fetch & bring back. He all of a sudden developed cancer at age 4. He went into our neighbors yard, their Pitt killed him. He’s a cool little cat. Comments & help would be appreciated. And like you said, it’s so important to give yourself time to grieve your cat’s death. It was so cute to watch her do this. I was told then he was really really sick he didnt think he was strong enough to get through it cause he had some underlining cronic problem. I don’t think you’ll ever be totally free of the pain of losing Jasper. Retrieved April 8, 2019. And ready or not, consider that a blessing and a sign, Litzinger says. She LOVED to be outside! He was too precious. Some cats show no signs of grief at all, and they may even appear happy to be the only cat in the home. How Long After Your Cat Dies Should You Wait Before Getting a New Cat? We’ve just lost our cat of 11 years and it’s so unfair. He was my soul cat. Well, the loss of a pet is indeed a very personal loss and should never be trivialized nor should you be judged for grieving, which we all have the right to do, and as long as needed. I’m sorry to hear that you lost your cat. X2 sets of mums and x2 sets of dads. She was my baby my cat. When one cat dies, owners will often notice some changes in the pets that are left behind. We did what we had to do, but by God it was hard, and the pictures in our heads are way too vivid to cope with. If you frame it that way it is all but impossible when you’re ready to bring another loved one into your life. Your family gave Buttons the best 19 years of her life. We have no children, not for lack of trying. I lost my Meeka on the 15/12/18, she had a sudden decline in health and was suffering. They sent flowers and cards, which was so thoughtful. An active and assertive cat may overwhelm quieter and more timid cats, making introductions difficult. But I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to do. His kidney failed and since last 4 days he didnt eat anything. She loved to run up down the steps and if I was in the attic she was quick to find a way to go from one side to the other. I just didn’t think I could bear that pain again. Once I’d put lo to bed, I found him at the bottom of the stairs. Blessings, let me know what you decide! Lots of things to consider. I feel like it would help with the grieving process, but at the same time, I feel like it would betray Kit’s memory. I read him a story from a book that I had been reading to him before, in our bathroom when he came home from the vets just days before. I have been in deep deep depression, but he was the one who helped me out of it. And reading these comments helped me to understand I’m not alone. If you feel like you want to get another cat because you have room in your heart to love and cherish him or her, then I think you need to listen to that still small voice and do what you feel is right. They have their own habits, personalities, tastes, quirks, strengths, and weaknesses, and they should be loved for their unique selves. I definitely feel broken and am still grieving for my baby cat- I raised her like my own child and couldn’t even bare to lay her to rest. There was a knock at the door and someone that knew us and had seen the accident was standing there telling me that my baby had been hit by a car. It took some time for the initial shock and pain to abate, and to deal with my husband’s sudden health crisis…but a house isn’t a home and a family isn’t whole without a cat. Good luck! Watch his sleeping patterns as well. I think it’d because he wants to be the only cat(except Turbo,for now) but I believe that he knows how much I need a special one to talk to,that he won’t want me to be sad n lonely without him.I can’t imagine losing him n feeling that hole n not having a little one to cuddle with n hello me through it. We’ve tried over the yrs. We think maybe she might have been abused. Please please please, if you are unsure, (matters not if indoor or outdoor kitties; Fransisco never saw the outside) please get your animals checked for leukemia and immunodeficiency virus. There is another cat out there who is waiting just for you and the comfort, love, and companionship you offer. We lost our sweet grey boy on 7th september he was only 5,maximus had a seizure when he woke up,could not jump up on windowsill,,could not breath,collapsed back legs,he was yowling,? My boy was 2 when i got him, so getting a girl kitten has been very different. Babe loved to ride in the car and I took her on trips with me. This yr week be 20yrs together n we’ve had a tough time making end meet all these yrs n we lost his father n now his mom is in poor health. Her mother has died shortly after her birth and the owners weren’t sure if she was going to make it since she was the runt. She did sneak out some but never went far. I really loved my cat and i miss him so much i miss my cat so so so much. It annoys me that the vet did not say anything at his check up,its not her fault i know,. He was my first pet, my children’s first pet, and for whatever reason I have never felt comfortable with animals of any type. If I had not come a day early to pick him up in the shelter, because someone did not keep his or her counseling appt., he would have died of a urinary blockage. The new cat in your life The decision when, or whether to get another cat is a very personal one, and should be done in your own time when you feel comfortable. Your experience gives me a lot to think about and I thank you for it. Hope this helps. There wasn’t even enough left of him to cremate. Be strong ???? Photography by CAHKT/Thinkstock. I kept him with me all day only leaving for a cup of coffee at an empty convenience store. Jake’s in heaven now and still loves you and knows that you prevented a lot of suffering for him. I don’t know what to do because I feel guilty for getting a new cat after making the choice to put her down, it feels like a betrayal to Holly who has done so much for me. There’s so much guilt, so many fears, and the grief is still so raw. She was one of the most special cats I had ever met in my life; she took me through the ups and downs of my 20s and ushered me into my 30s; I am blessed to have been her chosen pet mom (I wasn’t looking for a cat when she came into my life) and I am sad that she won’t be with me as I begin the next phase of my life, my journey to motherhood. Again, I know I’ll never have a cat like Binx. Don’t feel guilty about putting Holly down. Nor… Read More »When You Feel Like You Failed Your Dog or Cat, The heartbreak of losing your cat may be surprisingly painful. But am I ready? I cried all night and still I miss him. A couple of years ago I broke my collar bone in a bike accident. Thank you so much for your words as you go through your own grief. I’m so scared my heart is going to get broken again, and I just don’t know if I’d be able to handle that. The next day i couldnt find him and i was uneasy but being a dumb lazy asshole enjoyed my day off instead of searching for my cat and guess what i went to the beach and ended up staying till 4pm once it came to night time i went out searching for my cat calling his name and stuff but he wouldnt come which was odd he would want to spemd two nights outsid ebut if he wouldnt come there was nothing i could do. sorry to hear your loss and the same was happened to me . Her and I lived alone together, and now it’s just me. I went nuts and started bawling and told my husband I didn’t care if we had the $ or not and begged him please take him to the vet which is on his way to work(we live in rural area no vet hospital open around). I worried about him being outside again but everyone kept telling me he would be fine. Huffington Post. I’d stand on the other end, then we’d chase each other back and forth. That, in turn, would influence what type of companion to look for when he/she is ready. If your grieving cat stops eating for more than 24 hours, seek help from his veterinarian. The condition rarely passes from one cat to another. I knew that second she was dead! Join us as we say… Read More »Living Without Your Cat? I know he is at peace but that still does not lessen the loss and emptiness, which all pet owners can attest to. The decision to get a new dog should be one you make as a group. So sorry to hear about your Smokey. After a confirmatory examination in the treatment room, they prepped Francisco with an IV while I went outside and smoked two or three cigarettes and absolutely lost it with Theresa., When I went back inside, they had relocated Francisco to a special room filled with music and a fish tank and low soft lights…. 4. Some people may actively grieve for days or weeks after losing a cat, while others will grieve for months or longer. The intense crying spells have diminished but I miss him so much. 13 years ago when my first cat (the most exalted and magnificent Calpurnia) died, I was the one overcome with grief, while my other cat, the amazing Dave, was the one who consoled me. If he came home in a cat carrier, that might be a good choice. I’ve never known a cat that didn’t want to be cuddled n loved n spoiled until him,except the wood strays we come across. I always had cats when i was a kid and wanted to get a cat at this point in my life so i did years ago. Kristi thank you for the beautiful share. A couple yrs later at church,I found the best man a woman could ask for! She was the sweetest little thing and loved to be held. When your cat dies they leave behind a void. Each cat is different and they are intuitive I. Maybe in his own way, he guided me towards Nelly. Loving our cats with all our hearts means we hurt with all our hearts when they pass on. Like a piece of myself also died that day. I don’t think the pain of missing your cat ever truly goes away…I wish I could say you’ll heal completely from the grief and you’ll never feel sad about your T’bear Sterling…but I think we’ll always feel pangs of grief and sadness that we lost beloved animals. Life without your cat is a sad adjustment of heart and home. At that time, in my heart of hearts, I knew he wasn’t going to be going home. Then the next day i awoke and he was worse struggling for each breath. There are days I still grieve for Petrie and I know it will take time to completely heal. My 23 year old Tuxedo cat ( Mitzi ) passed away from a combination of renal failure and the ravages of old age.. Recently, one of the cats became suddenly and seriously ill and died. I don’t feel like I’m replacing my little girl, it just still hurts to miss her. She was a beautiful orange/ginger cat with tiny white paws and and white chest. Having a funeral will help with the healing. In fact I truly believe every once in a while he might be giving advice to Nelly. I feel your pain! Today I adopted 2 kittens from the shelter. ?we now know it was an enlarged heart,fluid on lungs,and saddle thrombus,,blood clot to legs,awful seeing our boy like that,took him to vets she explained after examination that he was so stressed and the best would be to let him go under anaesthetic., he was gone in a few hours, saying bye to him was the worst thing we ve ever done,the pain is awful,we cant stop crying.we will get another cat eventually maybe a few months,,we need a cuddle monster in our lives we ve not got kids,.please know i know all your pain ,.im so sorry for all of you x. I think you’re right, Petrie is watching from above and probably purring with joy that you’re not lonely :), “When you lose your beloved cat, they take a piece of your heart with them. When we saw that she was ready to go, we took her to the vet, kissed her head and told her goodnight one last time. He was a heat-hog, an after-work greeter, a playful old man. When I have to say good-bye to a dog or cat, I always open my heart for another beloved critter. You know your routine, personality, health, home, and lifestyle. Sammy was 11 1/2 years old and was the most amazing cat. When my kitty passed away a year ago, I felt guilt for even thinking of looking at another kitty. Misty Blue was a RagDoll & she never made it to her 4th birthday, that would of been December 11, 2015. The question is: how soon is too soon to get another cat after your cat died? It has taken my partner a long time to realise that he is just as important! I lost my cat Holly a little over a week ago. We stayed with Buster while he was put to sleep. How do you know that it’s gone? When I got there,my hand said he had eaten then started meowing and acting in pain. He came downstairs for his dinner and went straight back to bed which was normal. Should I try to ‘clean’ everything before bringing another cat or kitten into the home? You really have some beautiful memories of your life with Babe and that is very precious. “There will be memories that may make you sad at times, but they [should] not [be] overwhelming,” Richman says. I have never felt such loss and devastation. I just miss him because he was with me for many years and I’m still grieving. Or, if you feel like you’re ready to open your heart and home to a cat, then maybe you don’t need to foster a feline! We’d love to hear how it goes – how your new kitty settles in – anytime you want to update us. I lost my Charlie in March of 2017 to autoimmune disease. I came home and he was all cute an dwarm and happy and healthy sunbathing on my porch i patted him and told him he was a good boy. I think he was fearful of her (why, I don’t know because she was the sweetest girl – NEVER bit or scratched – nothing) and would always hiss or growl in her direction. Finally someone was able to get him to live in her apartment and she cared for him.. 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